Curmudgeons in the Church?


Curmudgeon – noun [ker-muhjuh n] a bad-tempered, difficult, cantankerous person

The Garden of Eden was perfect.   God walked with Adam and Eve in the cool of the day, communing with them in a glorious, supremely unblemished existence.  Sadly, sin destroyed that perfection.  Then Jesus came and broke the power of sin, and began the process of reconciliation.  But the world still groans as it waits for the final redemption.  In the interim, we are saddened by what happens even in the church.  The church is not yet perfect.  We expect curmudgeons to exist in the church, but we should not yield to them.

Sometimes people think that the church is to be such a holy place that we need to insist on immediate perfection for everyone.  They profess shock and indignation at any indication of fleshliness and they do not hesitate to confront other believers with the hard truths about their faults.  Ironically, sometimes these “shocked” people display their own fallen tendencies more clearly than anyone else does!  The truth is that we are all cut out of the same cloth.  Becoming holier and wiser happens over time.  “The message of the cross is foolish to those who are headed for destruction! But we who are being saved know it is the very power of God.” (I Cor. 1: 18 NLT)  Salvation is a process of becoming saved; therefore we can patiently tolerate a certain amount of cantankerousness in the church.

Some people write off the curmudgeons and say that it is impossible to teach them anything.  Granted, it is hard.  But we should remember that curmudgeons often are so difficult to deal with because they hold strong (albeit uninformed) opinions.  So a good strategy is to teach the truth and to broaden horizons.  They won’t change overnight, but they can change.

The Apostle Peter encountered curmudgeons.  After a shocking vision from heaven followed by an amazing display of Holy Spirit power falling upon the first Gentile believers, Peter accepted the obvious plan of God and baptized them.  But the Jewish curmudgeons in Jerusalem criticized him.  “You entered the home of Gentiles and even ate with them!” they said.  So Peter patiently told them the story with all its glorious details.  “Who was I to stand in God’s way?” he finished.  When they heard this, the curmudgeons stopped objecting and began praising God. (Acts 11)

Another time, many of the early church had gathered to pray for the Peter when he was in prison. (Acts 12)  Then the very thing that they were praying for happened!  God miraculously delivered him from prison!  When the girl who answered his knocking at the door told them that Peter was outside, the curmudgeons said, “You’re out of your mind!”  When she insisted, they decided, “It must be his angel.”  When they finally opened the door they were amazed!  An effective solution to curmudgeonly behavior in the church is to eradicate ignorance with the truth!

But what is going to happen to the church with all these curmudgeons residing there with such impunity?  Are they not going to drag the whole church down if we tolerate them?  It is true that for the church to really prosper, curmudgeons should not be entrusted with leadership responsibility.  Nor should they be given an outsized role of teaching or influence.  But that does not mean that the church should expel them.

It is fascinating to observe how the early church dealt with curmudgeons.  Some very studious, teacher-type curmudgeons started to teach the believers, “Unless you are circumcised as required by the Law of Moses, you cannot be saved.”  What did Paul and Barnabas do?  They openly disagreed with them, arguing vehemently! (Acts 15: 2)  Then the church confronted the issue head on by convening a conference.  In the end they said ‘no’.  They would not burden the Gentiles with the Jewish law that even they themselves were not able to bear.  They called a meeting to announce the verdict and there was great joy in the church as they delivered this encouraging message. (Acts 15: 31)

Curmudgeons aren’t so bad if you don’t yield to them!  The church thrived because the curmudgeons were not allowed to set the course of the church!  Instead the church unflinchingly focused on the goal.  The curmudgeons could decide to like it or lump it.

So today we too should expect to encounter curmudgeons in the church, but we should not yield to them.  Each of us can become progressively purer and increasingly insightful together.  We groan and long for the complete reconciliation of our world.  Eventually, in God’s perfect time, He will do it! He will restore the cosmos to a wonderful and glorious nirvana as it was in the very beginning!

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Peace of mind. Clarity of focus.


Yesterday a Haitian man named CJ spoke at our church.  The order of the service was that we had a singing period, then he spoke about the SALT savings program in Haiti, then we sang again, and he finished with a 15 minute sermon.  So he had the floor the whole time.  It was interesting because he was marginally fluent in English and was working hard express himself.  He also was very positive and emphasized the importance of having a mind that is fixed on God.

He said that all humans are the SAME!  Haitians, Americans, Canadians, everyone.  If you cut yourself, the blood that runs out is red, just like everyone else.  (I’m used to hearing the white entitlement, in which the white man condescendingly tells the African that we are not above you.  So I found it really exciting to hear a black Haitian man telling us white Americans that we are not above his fellow Haitians.)

He said that the Haitians view the white man as having money, and they tend to not try to help themselves but to get money from the Americans.  He works hard to change this.  He said that being poor starts with being poor in your mind.  He said that God has given you a mind to think, to be enterprising, to start a business, to change your circumstances.  That is the biggest challenge and job of the SALT savings program in Haiti.  None of the savings programs get money from Americans, but they all start with the people pooling their own funds, and putting their own money to work.  In one savings group model, the group will loan money out to each other, one at a time, so that each person can in the end have his own profitable business.  CJ obviously feels that teaching people to become resourceful and self-reliant is a very healthy and empowering sort of thing!

He said that he wasn’t sure about becoming involved with SALT when Darvin Seibel, the SALT director, first asked him.  He said that before he makes a decision, he needs to feel comfortable with it; that God really is calling him to go a certain direction.  But eventually it was clear to him that this is what he should do.  And now he has people calling him all of the time, asking him to help them to start savings groups in their area.  He said that he doesn’t know his own future; what will he do next month, or next year, or where he will be 10 years from now.  He will commit all of that to God.

He said that we need to be POSITIVE; to believe that all things are possible with God!  It became evident that he believes that a godly man with a proper focus on God will be able to be more energized and successful in every way than a non-Christian.

And so my main takeaway with this man was simply the reminder that we need to fix our minds on the Lord and to find our security in Him.  He does bless.  He does empower.  And He does give us clear direction for life!

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Kairos (καιρός) is an ancient Greek word meaning the right or opportune moment (the supreme moment). The ancient Greeks had two words for time, chronos and kairos. While the former refers to chronological or sequential time, the latter signifies a time lapse, an indeterminate time in which everything happens. What is happening when referring to kairos depends on who is using the word. While chronos is quantitative, kairos has a qualitative, permanent nature.


I enjoy my morning runs in the woods a lot. There is the physical stress, but there are sometimes moments like these. In this case, I saw a deer faintly behind the stream of light, jumping off the trail into the woods. So I stopped running, pulled out my phone, and snapped this photo. It was a kairos moment; a qualitative moment that spoke to things that are permanent. It was also a present moment. I was at that moment a living being, breathing deeply of the woods air, frozen for a few moments in time. I was just a created being, enjoying my oneness with the Creator.

We tend to see ourselves in the chronos time stream. History is something that we are acutely aware of. We see the rise and fall of nations, and we note with concern the rise and potentially future fall of our own. But if we always see ourselves as rising and falling without control or meaning on the chronos time stream, we can feel insignificant, or helpless, or depressed, or desperate!

So it is good to often stop and have a kairos moment. Spend some time in meditation. Leaders in mindful meditation often focus on the breath – the intake and the outflow. The rise and fall of the chest. Why? Because it forces a person for a few moments to be alive in the present and to be aware of those moments that give meaning to our lives. In those moments we find the strength to face the moments that yet lie ahead. Often, as Christians, our kairos moments are focused on the Creator who is a timeless Being. We hang suspended for a few precious moments – just Him and us. Leaving the past in the past with Him. Committing the future in the future with Him. We are content in the present.

Go ahead. Enjoy a kairos moment!

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A Medium of Love


How Portrait Photography Can Bridge the Gap Between Theory and Reality

My wife Erin travels to China and photographs special needs children in orphanages.  As she shoots hundreds and thousands of pictures, her team members evaluate the developmental status and also detail the special needs of the children.

Almost all Chinese children available for adoption have special needs.  Prospective adoptive families know this.  So early on in the process the parents are asked to develop a list of special needs that they are open to and that they feel they can handle.

Recently a family decided to adopt a certain precious little boy with a special need that they had never heard of before.  It was a need that hadn’t been on their list of needs that they thought that they could handle.  Even though it was a more significant need, they decided to adopt him anyway.


These parents decided to adopt this boy because of the picture that they seen.  If it hadn’t been for the picture, they probably wouldn’t have been drawn to him specifically.  They might have seen only the clinical diagnosis and they would probably have kept on looking.  Instead, a magical bond was formed. They chose him!

This scenario is not uncommon.  It happens over and over.  Parents see a picture . . . a face . . . a person . . . and they start to love!

How do pictures make such a difference?


The picture becomes a medium of love.  It provides a bridge between two parents and a child.  The picture enables the parents to see a child as clearly as they see a medical need.  And in the end, love wins.

This couple fell in love with the boy, and the discussion about special needs developed a bit of a different twist.  They still were concerned about the need.  In fact, they applied themselves to learning as much about the need as they could.  In the end they decided that it was manageable, and they discovered that they were more flexible than they thought they had been.

This little boy desperately needed their love.  And that’s why I absolutely support my wife’s orphan photography work.


But I also want to take a lesson from this and apply it to my own life.   Perhaps there are certain people that I don’t really love.  I look at them and shrug.  I see the need, but I don’t really see them.  And then God uses an event or a person as a medium to strip away the labels and the theories that I might have about that person.  The veil falls from my eyes.  The miracle happens.  The love that God has placed within my heart begins to flow into the life of the person that I otherwise wouldn’t have loved.

Dear God, please fill my heart with your love.  And then, please send a medium that will enable that love to flow from my life to others.  And for my children and others where the medium of love already exists, may your love in me never falter or abate.

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At the root of addiction

It seems to me that addictive behaviors often have at their root a negative self-image.  We don’t think nearly highly enough of ourselves as we should.  The addictions give a temporary and welcome reprieve from the never-ending doom in which a person exists.  So it doesn’t surprise me at all that suicidal tendencies are paired with addiction.

Sad face


In our Shalom Chorale this year, at each program, we would read the same story.  It was the story of a boy abandoned at 2 years on the church steps.  He was raised in the pastor’s loving home.  As a youth he argued with them, stole their money, and ran away.  Spent it all like a prodigal.  Came to the end of himself on the streets of Chicago.  Decided to write a letter home.  Told them he would be on a certain train, and if they could forgive him they should hang a rag in the tree.  If not, that’s OK, he would understand.  He would just keep on going.


The setting of the story is in the train car as he tells his story.  The climax of the story is when the train is just ready to round the bend where his home would come into view.  He couldn’t bear to look to see if the white rag was in the tree or not.  So the elderly man beside him watches for him.  And lo and behold, the tree is full of white rags, bed sheets, pillow cases.  And beneath the tree are his parents holding a sheet between them on which were painted the bold words.  “Welcome Home Son”.


I think many in the world can’t quite bring themselves to even look.  Can’t believe that God really loves them.  Man, the crowning work of God’s creation; this creation alone reveals this lie.  Jesus proves that it is a lie.  And yet we can hardly peep through our fingers to accept the forgiveness in the first place.  And then after that, we keep on covering our faces, ashamed of who we are, our sexuality, and all the rest.  When instead we should face the Light fully, faces thrown back with the light of joy upon them.




I can imagine God saying, “You are asking if I love you and if I will forgive you?!  Heaven yes!  Of course I do!  I created you!


So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most. (Heb. 4: 16 nlt)
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What does God require?

What does god require

What does God require of you?

It is the million dollar question because your soul is at stake.

What does God require?  How you answer that question will have a profound impact on the way that you live.  But maybe in a different way from what you would expect.

What does God require?  Some people believe that God requires them to be consistently Biblical.  So with every issue that confronts them, they will immediately respond.  “What does the Bible say?”  They won’t stop hunting in the Bible until they have found a principle or command that applies.  Trouble is, sometimes the Bible isn’t that specific.  And sometimes they misuse the verses!  The result is a misinformed and superficial (if well intentioned) approach to Christian living.

Are you ready to go deeper?  To find something that is superficially more vague, but that is fundamentally transformative?

What does God require?  I boil it down to this.

God requires a heart in tune with His heart.  To fear the Lord your God.  To walk in a way that pleases Him.  And to love him with all our heart and soul. (Deut. 10:12)  To do what is right, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with Him. (Mic. 6:8)  To care for orphans and widows in their distress.  And to refuse to let the world corrupt you. (James 1:27)

God can give you a heart like that.  And then He will do one thing more.  He will insert into that heart his living Holy Spirit!

Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.   Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me.  Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit. (Ps. 51: 10-12)

I pray that prayer tonight with all of my heart.  I invite you to do the same.

Also, I like this blog post.


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That’s What Faith Must Be

seek god first

Matthew 6:33-34Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)

33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you. 34 Therefore don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

When I read these verses yesterday, I realized that I have often viewed them in a negative light.  “Each day has enough trouble of its own” hardly seems to be an upbeat view of the world!

Let’s face it, sometimes life gets scary.  I’m not always scared . . . simply because life goes in cycles.  But sometimes I tremble in the face of fears that nobody else really knows about.  Sometimes I stare into the abyss of the future and I worry.  I instinctively know that the assurance I seek is nothing that a human can provide.  The answer does not reside with men.

If I run to a man, he might (1) wisely refrain from trying, (2) give me his own ideas, or (3) even exploit my fears for his own selfish ends.

Each day does have a dose of trouble.  But facing our troubles in daily doses is a faith building experience.  It is today’s trouble PLUS the problems of future months and years that makes life unbearable!

Do you know what it means to trust God for each day?  If we are unwilling to live this way, we will desperately try to create faulty safe havens and escape hatches that will keep us from developing faith.  We will be vulnerable to fear merchants whose vision is so clear that they can describe our grandchildren in detail, but they are so blind that they can’t see the beauty of following Jesus today.

It is in the desperate moments of despair, unanswered questions, and darkened pathways that we learn what faith really is.  “Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.”  It sounds like we are in for an adventure!

That’s What Faith Must Be – a song by Michael Card

To hear with my heart
To see with my soul
To be guided by a hand I cannot hold
To trust in a way that I cannot see
That’s what faith must be

When the universe fell from His fingertips
He decided He wanted some fellowship
But the man and the woman would not submit
So He made a better way

When the moment was right He sent His own son
And He opened the way so that everyone
Could have hope and believe that when time was done
He’d be able to make us one

To hear with my heart
To see with my soul
To be guided by a hand I cannot hold
To trust in a way that I cannot see
That’s what faith must be

Now I understand that there is a key
It’s Jesus in me, a reality
That God is in Christ and that Christ’s in me
That with faith I see what is unseen

To hear with my heart
To see with my soul
To be guided by a hand I cannot hold
To trust in a way that I cannot see
That’s what faith must be
That’s what faith must be

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